With the prevalence of divorce being around 40%, it is no surprise that nearly 1 in 5 children are currently living in a blended family. Unfortunately for many of those children living in a blended family, the reality is that second marriages fail at a higher rate than first marriages with 60-70% of second marriages ending in divorce. Given that, it seems especially important to enter into a second marriage very carefully and thoughtfully for many reasons, but particularly to be a permanently stabilizing force for the children being raised in these blended families. So before you even think about marrying your significant other, and bringing your families together here are a few things to honestly look at before you say, “I DO”:
People who live in blended families have a wonderful opportunity to create something whole in its own right and new out of parts of something that usually came from a loss like from divorce or a death. It is certainly possible to have a thriving blended family, and picking the right partner is the first and one of the most important things to get right. Pick the one you know will hang in there with you through all the challenges, who is someone who puts others first, someone who knows themselves and someone who WANTS to be with you, not someone who NEEDS to be with you-pick that person. And also, become that person yourself. I am here to help with relationship issues, couples counseling and premarital counseling. I am in good company of many excellent counselors in the area, so if you need or want help to ensure you are setting your new marriage up for success, please contact me ([email protected]) or another counselor in your area.